Divorce

Divorce is a tough subject that no one goes into a marriage expecting to happen, but the fact is- divorce can happen to anyone and everyone knows someone who has been through it. Christy proposed the 5 F's that one should use prior to marriage to help avoid a divorce in the future. The 5 F's include: family, finances, faith, friends, and foolishness. By using these as a guideline for tough conversations to cover pre marriage, one can go into a marriage feeling confident that the majority of the basis were covered. However, should I go through a divorce I have a few ideas of how I would successfully navigate the situation. First I would have my husband and I go through many months of counseling to try our best to work this out, if it's feasible. If we go through counseling and still feel a divorce is the only solution I will then have us go to a lawyer and begin to discuss with him how we can settle this the easiest and most civil way possible. Ideally, we will both be at a stable place financially that we can both independently support ourselves without having to alter our lifestyles too much. Ultimately, my greatest wish is if I do have to go through a divorce, I really hope we don't have children at that point. However, if we do have kids, and even if we don't, I truly hope my husband and I came to this conclusion together and have a civil divorce, ending in a friendship. Should we have to get a divorce I hope it wasn't because either of us cheated or became an abusive relationship, but rather just simply fell out of love with one another.

Tactics to successfully navigate divorce:

Stay kind to one another to ensure a civil divorce
Be money smart
Don't divorce if currently in debt
Hire a good lawyer
Go through several months of counseling
Fight for the marriage until there's nothing left to fight for
Stay loyal to your partner
Don't have the misconception that kids will make a marriage stronger, because it'll only pull your further apart
Have a good circle of friends and family to support me through the difficult time
Use the divorce as a chance to grow and better myself